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Friday Sermon: Desire for children and their proper upbringing

Sermon Delivered by Hazrat Mirza Masroor Ahmad at Head of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community.
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Many men and women write to me requesting prayers for their unborn child and seek advice prayers for their expected child. At times, parents ask for guidance for their children who are getting closer to adolescence and adulthood. By the Grace of Allah, the majority of the Community think in this manner and they are focused on how they should undertake the tarbiyyat (moral training) of their children. This is a great blessing and favour of Allah the Almighty upon us Ahmadis that due to accepting the Promised Messiah (as), we think in this manner. In this age, where worldly desires have engulfed everyone, we are not only concerned about the worldly well-being of our children, rather, we also strive to care about the improvement of their faith.

Allah the Almighty has also bestowed this favour upon us Muslims — there are clear guidelines for the moral training of children from even before their birth in the Holy Quran. The Holy Quran teaches prayers for this purpose. If we offer these supplications, and spend our lives in this way and pay attention to the tarbiyyat of our children, then we can send forth a pious progeny.

There is no doubt that the tarbiyyat of children is not an easy affair and especially in this age, where at every turn attractions created by Satan entice us in various ways. A true believer is indeed expected that being attached to Allah the Almighty, he should save himself as well as his children from the onslaughts of Satan, instead of giving in to despair and negative feelings while being frightened. A harrowing example of negative thinking, came before my eyes when a person wrote to me that given the prevalent immorality in the world today and the state of the general moral depravity, I would choose to not have children after I get married. This is an extremely pessimistic view. This is akin to accepting defeat from Satan, taking Satan as the final authority and acting as though Allah the Almighty has no power to save us and our children from the onslaughts of Satan, regardless of how much effort we exert and prayers we offer. In other words, this is like granting absolute freedom to the followers of Satan, leading to annihilation of the progeny of believers in due course. Hence, this way of thinking is extremely disappointing and does not behove the followers of the Promised Messiah (as). In order to partake in the revolution for which the Promised Messiah (as) was sent to the world by Allah the Exalted, we must use our capabilities and faculties to the utmost and we must also infuse this spirit into our offspring. We must pray for our objectives and bring our children up [in a manner] so that despite all of the filth and indecencies found in the society, we will not allow Satan to be victorious, Insha'Allah [God willingly]. We must endeavour to establish the Kingdom of God on this earth. Thus, there is no need to be disheartened. Rather, we must act in accordance with the prescribed path by Allah the Exalted with determination.

As I mentioned, Allah the Exalted has taught us prayers in the Holy Qur'an to be blessed with virtuous offspring. This is the prayer of the Prophet Zachariah, 'My Lord, grant me from Thyself pure offspring; surely, Thou art the Hearer of prayer.' So, we should pray for virtuous progeny as well as act in a virtuous and pious manner, which are the characteristics of virtuous people and prophets. In order to safeguard our progeny from the evil influences of the time, it is necessary that both the husband and wife should act in a virtuous manner.

Munshi 'Ata Muhammad Sahib, the revenue collector, says that I was a non-Ahmadi, I did not practice faith, drank heavily and loved on bribes. I was invited to Ahmadiyyat by a friend. The Promised Messiah (as) prayed for a son for him provided he repented as Zachariah repented. Munshi Sahib says that I learnt that the repentance of Zachariah is to abstain from irreligiousness, earn lawfully, to regularly pray and fast and to visit the mosque more frequently. He says that upon hearing this, I refrained from alcohol, I abstained from taking bribes and became regular in praying and fasting. He says that a period of approximately four or five months had passed when my wife (the eldest wife, he had three wives) showed signs of pregnancy. I told people that I will be blessed with a son, who will be healthy as well as beautiful. Accordingly, a son was born. He says that I pledged initiation following that and many other people from that area also pledged initiation. Remember, when we offer the prayer of Zachariah for our children, it is necessary for us to develop a pure change with ourselves as well.

This was a special case of a man with virtuous potential, however, acceptance of Ahmadiyyat cannot be conditional to any desires or personal gains. Becoming an Ahmadi on conditions is not [the definition of] accepting faith. Rather, it is forcing Allah the Exalted to accept our conditions. We are required to follow His guidance, He is not bound to follow our desires. Nevertheless, as I mentioned, whilst we pray for our children, we must also develop a pure change within ourselves.

The prayer of Zachariah is mentioned in Surah Al Anbiya of the Holy Quran – My Lord, leave me not childless, and Thou art the Best of inheritors. (Al-Anbiya' 90). Since God Almighty has been called the 'Best of Inheritors', it is clear from this prayer that one should not pray to be granted offspring that can become their heirs in their worldly affairs, but instead such heirs be granted from God Almighty who give preference to their faith over the world. The desire to have children is a legitimate desire, but on top of that one must also pray for pious heirs. The Promised Messiah (as) in one place states: "The trial surrounding children is a great trial indeed. If the children are righteous then why should one worry? God Almighty Himself states: God Himself becomes the Friend and Protector of the righteous.

Then, in another place, whilst giving advice about children the Promised Messiah (as) states: "Become righteous yourselves and become an example of piety and righteousness for your children, and make efforts and pray to make them God-fearing and devout. .. The least one can do in training their children is to teach them about religion and for them to remain firm to their faith with the same effort they makes for them in worldly terms. ..."

God Almighty has taught us the following prayer in the Holy Quran: And make my seed righteous for me. I do turn to Thee; and, truly, I am of those who submit to Thee (Al-Ahqaf 16)

Here the prayer is for the reformation of children, and alongside it has been acknowledged that the individual will aspire to become among those who submit to and obey God Almighty. God Almighty has then taught us a very comprehensive prayer in the Holy Quran ; 'Our Lord, grant us of our wives and children the delight of our eyes, and make us a model for the righteous. (Al-Furqan 75). Hence, with every prayer, God Almighty has repeatedly advised us in the Holy Quran that we must watch over our deeds if we wish to have righteous offspring.

The Promised Messiah (as) explains that the desire to have children should not be merely to leave an heir to this world, but to have an heir who can continue the pious deeds of their elders. The Promised Messiah(as) states: … one should also pay heed towards children's moral reformation. Allah the Almighty has created man so that he may worship Him, just as Allah the Almighty states: And I have not created the Jinn and the men but that they may worship Me.' However, if one does not become a Momin [believer]; and does not devote himself to the servitude of God; and does no fulfil the true objective of his creation. … 'Thus, until one does not desire for a progeny which is religious, full of piety and serves faith while displaying complete obedience to Allah the Almighty, such a desire is completely futile, in fact it is a form of sin.

The Promised Messiah (as) further states: 'If a person states that he longs for a virtuous and pious progeny which shall serve faith (which indeed is a great desire to have), however this will merely be a claim unless he makes an effort to improve his own condition.' The Promised Messiah (as) states that moral training and prayers for this must be our top priority. 'My own condition is such that there is not a single prayer of mine in which I do not pray for my friends, children and wife.' The Promised Messiah (as) further states about children making mistakes in early childhood: '… If they are not stopped in their childhood and guided with love during their early years then gradually they will increase in their ill actions.' In another place, the Promised Messiah (as) states: 'It is also important to teach them about their faith. It should not be the case that they are completely occupied in pursue of their secular education and worldly endeavours and thus parents do not pay any attention to teach them about their faith and nor make any arrangements for them to be taught. It is extremely important to teach them about their faith and their beliefs.

Allah the Almighty states: 'Our Lord, grant us of our wives and children the delight of our eyes, and make us a model for the righteous.' This can only be possible when they [i.e. the parents themselves] do not lead a life of disobedience and falsehood, in fact they lead a life like the servants of the Gracious God. They give precedence to God over everything else. After this God Almighty has then further elaborated by saying 'and make us a model for the righteous'. If one's progeny is virtuous and righteous then surely, he must be their Imam [head]. Therefore, this is also a prayer for one to become a righteous person i.e. one prays for himself to become righteous and prays that Allah the Almighty makes him tread upon the paths of righteousness and then this prayer includes the children also become righteous. 'Therefore, with respect to children, one should always desire for their children to serve their faith. The parents of Waqfeen-e-Nau [scheme to devote children for the services of faith prior to birth] children should ensure that they guide their children towards their faith.

Amongst the Muslim community this has become commonplace and for this reason special effort to have a male offspring. The men in turn give no share of the inheritance to their sisters. The parents leave no share of their wealth for their daughters and instead leave everything to their sons – which is contrary to the teachings of Islam – the men in return squander the wealth. Nevertheless, as I have already mentioned previously, the parents of Waqfeen-a-Nau children should pay special attention towards the moral training of their children and alongside this they must pray for them to achieve this goal; for their children to grow up to serve the faith in a manner whereby they give precedence to faith over all worldly pursuits. Thus, everyone should pray for their children to become righteous and develop a pure nature. The Promised Messiah (as) states: "The succour of God Almighty descends only upon those people who excel in virtuous deeds and do not remain at one station. These are the people who have a prosperous end." In order for one to receive a prosperous end the Promised Messiah (as) stated: "One should pray constantly for oneself, as well as their wife and children."

Then whilst advising us the Promised Messiah (as) stated: "perform those deeds which set the best and perfect example for your children." This is the responsibility of the parents. The Promised Messiah (as) further elaborates by saying: "That is why it is necessary to first reform oneself. If you become a righteous and temperate individual and strive to please God, then Allah the Almighty will always show benevolence to you and your offspring. In the Holy Quran, the incident of Khizr and Prophet Moses (as) is mentioned that together they constructed a wall belonging to a few orphaned children. Referring to this God Almighty states: "their father had been a righteous man" The condition of the children themselves was not mentioned, rather the parents were mentioned. The Promised Messiah (as) elaborates by saying: "Therefore, always desire for your progeny to become pious, in return God Almighty will grant you the means and provisions for progress.

Thus, these are the fundamental principles towards which the Promised Messiah (as) advised us constantly. This in fact is an elaboration of the Quranic principles, that the conduct of the mother and father plays a big part in the upbringing of children.

May Allah the Almighty grant every single one of us to become the best example for our children. May we fulfil the pledge of giving precedence to our faith over all worldly objects. Instead of looking towards others to see what their condition is – as is the habit of some people – we should focus on ourselves. Only then will we be able to leave a pious progeny for the future that will tread the path of righteousness. May we constantly pray for our children, so that God Almighty makes them the delight of our eyes.

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  • Many people write to me requesting prayers for their children and for their upbringing. By the grace of God, majority of Ahmadis are worried for their children. This is a blessing of God for us in this age that we are constantly worried about such matters. Allah has laid out many prayers and ways for upbringing of children. It’s true that this is a difficult task, especially in this age. It requires constant hard work and Jihad.
  • For example, a person recently wrote to me that there are so many issues regarding children in this age that I have decided to get married, but not have any children. Huzur said that this is depressed and hopeless thinking. Such a person has given all powers to Satan, instead of Allah. Allah has taught us many prayers in the Holy Quran for the upbringing of children. For example, this prayer of Prophet Zachariah (as): My Lord, grant me from Thyself pure offspring; surely, You are the Hearer of prayer.
  • Here Allah has taught us the prayer for our children to be pure and righteous. In order for children to be righteous, it is important that both parents themselves are established upon goodness. Your prayer for righteous children will not be accepted without bringing about a pure change in yourself. The Promised Messiah (as) has said that the trial of children is a huge trial. If the child is ill-fated, then even if you leave lots of wealth for him, he would waste it. On the contrary, if that person obeys the commandments of God, he would become satisfied from his children.
  • Then the Promised Messiah (as) says that just like you work hard to earn money for your children, it is important for you to pray and work hard for the upbringing of your children. Similarly, God has taught us this prayer in the Holy Quran: Our Lord, grant us of our wives and children the delight of our eyes, and make us a model for the righteous.
  • The Promised Messiah (as) has said that here God has called parents Imam for the children meaning they need to become a practical role model for their children. Then the Promised Messiah (as) says that man should think why he desires children? Allah has created us for his worship. If a man does not become a true believer and does not fulfil the right of worship of Allah, then his prayer is only as much as leaving a Khalifa or a successor behind to continue his evil ways.
  • Then the Promised Messiah (as) says that man desires children, but once we have children, they are not properly taught religion or moral teachings. The real purpose of upbringing of children should be that they become servants of their faith.
  • Huzur-e-Anwar (aba) said that the parents of waqifin-e-Nau should especially pay attention to this. May Allah enable all of us to be righteous role-models for our children and continue to pray for their upbringing. Ameen
  • بہت سے لوگ اپنی اولاد کیلئے اور ان کی تربیت کیلئے دعا کی درخواست کرتے ہیں۔ اللہ تعالیٰ کے فضل سے جماعت کی اکثریت کو اپنے بچوں کی تربیت کی فکر ہے۔ یہ اللہ تعالیٰ کا فضل ہے کہ اس زمانہ میں ہماری سوچیں اس طرف مائل ہیں۔ قرآن کریم میں مختلف جگہ پر اللہ تعالیٰ نے تربیت کیلئے طریق اور دعائیں سکھائی ہیں۔ یہ درست بات ہے کہ بچوں کی تربیت آسان کام نہیں ہے ۔ اس کیلئے مسلسل محنت اور جہاد کی ضرورت ہے اور اللہ تعالیٰ کے احکام پر عمل کرنے کی ضرورت ہے جو اس ضمن میں اس نے بیان کئے ہیں۔ پس ضروری ہے کہ انسان محنت کرتا چلا جائے اور ہمت نہ ہارے۔
  • مثلا حضور نے فرمایا کہ ابھی حال ہی میں ایک شخص نے مجھے لکھا کہ بچوں کی تربیت کے لحاظ سے اتنے مسائل ہیں کہ میں نے فیصلہ کیا ہے کہ شادی تو کر لوں لیکن بے اولاد رہنا بہتر ہے۔ فرمایا کہ یہ انتہائی مایوس کن سوچ ہے۔ اور ساری طاقت کا منبع بجائے اللہ تعالیٰ کےشیطان کو سمجھ لیا ہے۔ اللہ تعالیٰ نے بچوں کی تربیت کیلئے قرآن کریم میں بہت سی دعائیں سکھائی ہیں۔ مثلا حضرت ذکریا کی یہ دعا: مثلا حضرت ذکریا کی یہ دعا :یعنی اے میرے رب اپنی جناب سے مجھے نیک اولاد عطا فرما۔ یقینا تو دعا کو سننے والا ہے۔
  • پس اولاد کے نیک ہونے کیلئے ضروری ہے کہ دونوں والدین نیکیوں پر عمل کرنے والے ہوں۔ اپنے اندر پاک تبدیلی پیدا کئے بغیرانسان کی نیک اولاد کی دعا قبول نہیں ہوتی۔ حضرت مسیح موعود علیہ السلام نے فرمایا ہے کہ اولاد کاابتلا بھی بہت بڑا ابتلا ہے۔ اگر اولاد صالح ہو تو پھر کس بات کی پرواہ ہو سکتی ہے۔ اگر اولاد بد بخت ہے تو بیشک لاکھو ں روپیہ چھوڑ جاؤ وہ اس کو ضائع کر دیگا۔ اگر وہ شخص اللہ تعالیٰ کے احکام پر چلے تو اولاد کی نسبت مطمئن ہو جائیگا۔
  • پھر آپ علیہ السلام نے فرمایا کہ جس طرح تم اولاد کیلئے پیسہ کمانے کی کوشش کرتے ہو اسی طرح ضروری ہے کہ اچھی تربیت کیلئے دعا اور دینی تربیت کیلئے محنت کرو۔ پھر اللہ تعالیٰ نے قرآنِ کریم میں یہ دعا سکھائی ہے: اے ہمارے ربّ ! ہمیں اپنے جیون ساتھیوں اور اپنی اولاد سے آنکھوں کی ٹھنڈک عطا کر اور ہمیں متقیوں کا امام بنا دے۔
  • حضرت مسیح موعود علیہ السلام نے فرمایا ہے یہاں ماں باپ کو امام یعنی اپنا عملی نمونہ بچوں کیلئے قائم کرنے کی تلقین کی گئی ہے۔ پھر فرمایا کہ انسان کو سوچنا چاہئے کہ انسان کو اولاد کی خواہش کیوں ہوتی ہے؟ اللہ تعالیٰ نے ہمیں اپنی عبادت کیلئے پیدا کیا ہے۔ اگر انسان خود مومن نہیں بنتا اور عبادت کا حق ادا نہیں کرتا تو ایسے شخص کی دعا کا یہی حال ہو گا کہ وہ اپنی برائیوں کیلئے ایک خلیفہ چھوڑنا چاہتا ہے۔
  • حضرت مسیح موعود نے فرمایا کہ انسان کو اولاد کی خواہش تو ہوتی ہے لیکن جب اولاد ہوتی ہے تو نہ انکو دین سکھایا جاتا ہے اور نہ اخلاقی معیار۔ اولاد کی پرورش کا اصل مقصد یہ ہونا چاہئے کہ اولاد دین کے خادم ہوں۔
  • حضورِ انور نے فرمایا کہ خاص طور پر واقفین نو کے والدین کو اس طرف توجہ دینی چاہئے ۔ اللہ تعالیٰ ہمیں تو فیق دے کہ ہم اپنی اولادکیلئے اچھا نمونہ بننے والے ہوں اور اپنی اولاد کیلئے دعا کرنے والے ہوں۔ آمین۔
About Friday Sermon

The Jumu'ah (Friday) prayer is one form of congregational worship in Islam. It takes place every Friday. Regular attendance at the Jumu'ah prayer is enjoined on the believer. According to a Saying of Muhammadsa this congregational prayer is twenty-five times more blessed than worship performed alone. (Bukhari)

Friday Sermons in the Quran

“O ye who believe! When the call is made for Prayer on Friday, hasten to the remembrance of Allah, and leave off all business. That is best for you, if you only knew.” more

Friday Sermons in the Hadith

“… (He who) offers the Prayers and listens quitely when the Imam stands up for sermon, will have his sins forgiven between that Friday and the next”(Bukhari)