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Friday Sermon: The best of you are the best to their women; Lead by example

Sermon Delivered by Hazrat Mirza Masroor Ahmad at Head of the Ahmadiyya Muslim Community.
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The teaching of Islam, which was revealed to the Holy Prophet(sa), provides us with guidance regarding every matter. If every one of us, were to act upon this teaching, a beautiful society could be formed. There are countless commandments in the Holy Qur’an. However, Allah the Almighty says, ‘Verily you have in the Prophet of Allah an excellent model’. Thus, true success can only be achieved, if we put this model before us in every big and small matter.

In view of this, I will now say something regarding the responsibilities of men in various capacities. A man has responsibilities as the guardian of the household and as a husband. He has responsibilities as a father as well as a son. If every man came to understand these responsibilities and tried to fulfil them, it could become a means of peace in the wider society and of the establishment of love and harmony.

Some men, thinking that they have unbridled authority as the head of the house, are engaged in domestic violence and cruelty to children. So, if one wants to carry on treating his wife and children like ignorant people, then there is no benefit in coming into the Bai’at [Oath of Initiation] of the Promised Messiah(as). The Holy Prophet(sa), as the guardian of his family, made his family appreciate first and foremost, the importance of establishing tauheed [Oneness of God]. However, he did so with love and affection, not by force. Thus, Hazrat Aisha(ra) relates that the Holy Prophet(sa) would wake up during the night to offer nafl [voluntary] prayers and he would wake us up with a light sprinkling of water, so that we may offer nawafil and fulfil the responsibilities which are due to Allah. Then, the Holy Prophet(sa) helped with tasks, which were part of the duties of the wives. Hazrat Aisha(ra) relates that he would stitch his own clothes, mend his shoes and repair the household items such as the water bucket etc. Thus, many husbands, keeping these examples in mind, will have to re-evaluate their behaviour at home. Remember the Hadith, “The one from among you is the highest regarding morals and manners who is better in his treatment of his wives.’ Thus, good treatment of wives is the very sign of the greatness of one’s standard of faith.

Regarding the responsibilities of a husband and good treatment of wives, the Promised Messiah(as) states, “Except for indecency, all weaknesses and petulant behaviour of women should be tolerated. I find it absolutely shameful that a man should fight a woman. ….”. Once, the Promised Messiah(as) said that our members [of the Jama’at] should not be harsh and ill-tempered with their wives. The Promised Messiah(as) said, “Once raised my voice against my wife and I immediately refrained from uttering any hurtful and harsh word. I recited a lot of Istighfar [seeking forgiveness] and offered voluntary prayers with great ferventness and gave some charity...”

Thus, those who are unkind to their wives, their faith is in danger. They should be very concerned as the person who is not at the highest standard of faith, can stumble at any time. Admonishing such men, the Promised Messiah(as) says, “If a man is not pious, how then can the wife be pious?” The Promised Messiah(as) further said, “Verily, if a man becomes pious, the wife can also become pious.”

Here I have observed that women are more religious. They complain at times that our husband is not inclined towards religion. They are neglectful of prayers, watch inappropriate and immoral programmes on TV and are negligence in their duties to the upbringing of children. They scold and physically abuse children. In these countries, such issues are brought to the police and give our community a bad name. Furthermore, such people incur worldly punishment as well as the displeasure of Allah the Almighty.

Thus, if you wish to have a peaceful home, if you wish to bring up the future generations and keep them attached to religion, then men need to be attentive towards their conditions. Thus, this is the standard. All your efforts of preaching and gaining the religious knowledge are futile, if you are not good with your family. When men do not take their responsibilities seriously, homes are shattered and the lives of children are devastated. Men must not force Purdah on women and women should bear in mind that they need to cover their head and body according to the requirements of modesty. This is the command of Allah the Almighty and so they should be mindful of this. The Promised Messiah (as), explaining this, says, “The relationship between a husband and wife should be like two true and sincere friends. … If his relationship with his wife is not good, how can he be at peace with God? The Holy Prophet (sa) has said, “‘The best among you is he who is best towards his wife.’’

Further, husband’s need to understand their responsibilities as fathers. Father’s should also play their role in the child’s training and upbringing. In particular, when boys reach seven or eight years old, they become needful of their father’s attention. Men and fathers must establish their good examples. Where fathers should show respect and regard to their children, they develop good morals. A father’s good relationship with his children gives them a sense of protection. Thus, to instil in children a sense of security, it is imperative that fathers spend some time in leisure activities with their children and pray for them. The Promised Messiah (as) says, “I pray for my children and require them to follow a broad set of rules of behaviour (what are our teachings, what are its rules, what are its regulations, we draw attention towards them) and no more. Beyond this I put my full trust in Allah Almighty in the confidence that the seed of good fortune inherent in each of them will flower at its proper time.” The Promised Messiah further states, ‘The trial of one’s children is a great trial. If one’s children are virtuous, then what should one worry about. The Promised Messiah (as) further states, ‘Behave in a manner that is an excellent example for children and for this it is essential that one should reform oneself.’

Islam also stresses that the ‘you [children] also have responsibilities. When you reach adolescence, you have certain responsibilities towards your parents which you have to fulfil. Once the Holy Prophet (sa) said to a companion who wanted to go for Jihad that if your parents are alive, you should serve them, this is Jihad for you”. Thus, one can gauge the importance of serving one’s parents from this. Hazrat Abu Saeed Al-Siyaadi narrates “We were in the presence of the Holy Prophet (sa) when a man from the Bani Salama appeared and enquired ‘O Messenger of Allah! Is there any virtue that I can perform after my parents have passed away?’ The Holy Prophet (sa) stated: “Indeed! You should pray for them and beg for their forgiveness. You should fulfil those promises they made with people. You should show kindness and compassion to all of their relations and friends. Then on another occasion the Holy Prophet (sa) stated: “Whosoever wished to live a long life and for their income to be blessed should show kindness and compassion to their parents and show respect to their kinsfolk.”

Thus, children should not only make demands from their parents, rather, when they reach adolescence they have certain responsibilities and rights that they owe towards their parents. Especially after marriage, one should be more mindful of these responsibilities. If an individual uses wisdom and fulfils the rights of his wife as well as his parents, have a respectful attitude towards his mother and father in law then there will never be any sort of dispute in the home, the likes of which are sometimes seen.

In any case, man should fulfil the various responsibilities that are placed upon him. Always set an example at home whereby it creates an atmosphere of love and affection. A man is a husband, as well as a father and a son. Therefore, one should understand their responsibilities according to their various capacities. May Allah enable everyone to achieve this.

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  • The teachings of Islam guide us in every matter. Allah has summarized these teachings in this verse of the Holy Quran: You have in The Prophet an excellent example.
  • Therefore, we always need to keep the model and example of the Holy Prophet (sa) in mind. Islam has explained the responsibilities of men in their different roles, as father, husband, son etc. If these teachings are adopted, a peaceful society can be established. Sometimes, men consider themselves superior to women while not fulfilling the rights of their wives or children. Some people even physically harm women and children. If one doesn’t let go of such ignorant behavior, then the Bai’at of the Promised Messiah (as) hasn’t benefited them in any way.
  • The Holy Prophet (sa) treated his wives and children with love and affection. Hazrat Aisha (ra) says that the Holy Prophet (sa) used to wake up at night for Nafl prayers. Then he used to wake us up with a little sprinkle of water before Fajr time to offer voluntary prayers. He also used to help his wives in their tasks at home such as cleaning, cooking etc. Keeping his example in mind, Muslim men should analyze their behavior.
  • The Holy Prophet (sa) said that the best amongst the believers are those who are best in morals, and the best in morals are those who are best in treatment of their wives. The Promised Messiah (as) has said that other than clear indecency, all other weaknesses of women should be tolerated. Then he once said that we find it extremely shameful that being men, we fight with women. Being a man is a blessing of Allah upon us and its deserved thankfulness is to treat women with kindness and affection. Similarly, the Promised Messiah (as) once said that women have a great tendency to be influenced (by behavior). Woman see the behavior and acts of man. If you want to reform them, then men should first reform themselves.
  • It is seen that the reason for evils in our homes and bad upbringing of our children is mostly due to the morals and behavior of men. If you would like to have a religious environment in your homes and better upbringing of your children, then it is incumbent for men to make themselves better.
  • Similarly, men have responsibilities as fathers as well. Do not think that upbringing of children is only for women. Men need to establish their own role model for children, especially for boys. Similarly, it is important to keep a very close eye on your children and their behavior. Earnest prayers for your children are also vital.
  • Similarly, being a son, Islam has enjoined men to act in a kind fashion towards his parents. After their passing away, it is important to keep a good relationship with their relatives and their friends. You should always be kind towards your father and mother in-laws. Some new Ahmadis inquire about treatment of their parents. They should remember that despite changing your faith, it is important to always be kind and compassionate towards your parents. A man is a husband, father and a son among his many other roles. We should try to understand our responsibilities from all aspects. May Allah enable us to do so.
  • اسلام کی تعلیم ہر معاملہ میں ہماری راہنمائی کرتی ہے۔ قرآنی تعلیم کا خلاصہ اللہ تعالیٰ نے ایک جملہ میں یوں بیان کر دیا کہ ’لقد کان لکم فی رسول اللہ اسوۃ حسنة‘
  • پس ہر معاملہ میں آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کی مثال اور اسوہ سامنے رکھنا ضروری ہے۔ مردوں کی مختلف لحاظ سے جو ذمہ داریاں ہیں ان کو اسلام میں بیان کیا گیا ہے۔ اگر ان تعلیمات کو تمام مرد اپنا لیں تو ایک پر امن معاشرہ قائم ہو سکتا ہے۔بعض اوقات مرد اپنے آپکو افضل سمجھتے ہیں جبکہ نہ اپنی بیویوں کے حقوق ادا کرتے ہیں اور نہ بچوں کے۔ اور بعض لوگ تو بیوی بچوں پر جسمانی تشدد بھی کرتے ہیں۔ اگر حضرت مسیح موعود علیہ السلام کی بیعت کرنے کے بعد بھی جاہلوں والا سلوک کرنا ہے تو ایسی بیعت کا کچھ فائدہ نہیں۔
  • آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے اپنے گھر والوں کی تربیت تو پیار اور رحم کے ساتھ کی۔ حضرت عائشہ رضی اللہ عنہا فرماتی ہیں کہ آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم رات کو نفل کیلئے اٹھتے تھے اور پھر فجر سے پہلے ہمیں پانی کے چھینٹے سے اٹھاتے تھے۔ نہایت نرمی کاسلوک تھا۔ گھر میں بیویوں کے کام میں ان کی مدد فرماتے تھے۔ ان نمونوں کو سامنے رکھتے ہوئے بہت سے مردوں کو اپنا جائزہ لیناچاہئے۔
  • آنحضرت صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم نے فرمایا کہ مومنوں میں کامل الایمان وہ ہیں جس کے اخلاق اچھے ہیں۔ اور تم میں سے اخلاق کے لحاظ سے وہ بہتر ہے جسکا اپنی بیویوں سے سلوک اچھا ہے۔ حضرت مسیح موعود علیہ السلام فرماتے ہیں کہ فحشاء کے سوا عورتوں کی باقی تمام کمزوریاں برداشت کرنی چاہئیں ۔ پھر فرمایا کہ ہمیں کمال بے شرمی معلوم ہوتی ہے کہ مرد ہو کر عورتوں سے لڑائی کریں۔ مرد ہونا خداتعالیٰ کی ہم پر نعمت ہے اور اس کا شکریہ ہے کہ عورتوں کے ساتھ نرمی اورلطف سےسلوک کریں۔ اسی طرح حضرت مسیح موعود علیہ السلام نے فرمایا ہے کہ عورتوں میں متاثر ہونے کا مادہ بہت ہوتا ہے۔ مرد کی تمام باتوں اور اوصاف کو عورت دیکھتی ہے۔ اگر اصلاح کرنی ہے تو خاوند اپنی اصلاح کر لیں یوں عورتوں پر بھی اثر ہو جائیگا۔ حضور انور نے فرمایا کہ گھروں میں برائیاں اور بچوں کی تربیت میں کمی کا باعث اکثر اوقات مردوں کے اخلاق ہیں۔ اگر آپ چاہتے ہیں کہ گھر میں دینی معاشرہ ہواور بچوں کی تربیت اچھی ہو تو لازمی ہے کہ مرد اپنے آپکو بہتر بنائیں۔
  • اسی طرح مردوں کی باپ ہونے کے لحاظ سے بھی ذمہ داری ہے۔ یہ نہ سمجھیں کہ یہ صرف عورتوں کی ذمہ داری ہے۔ خاص طور پر لڑکوں کی تربیت میں باپوں کو اپنا نمونہ قائم کرنے کی ضرورت ہے۔ تربیت کرنے کے ساتھ ساتھ بچوں پر نظر رکھنا بھی نہایت ضروری ہے ۔ اسی طرح بچوں کیلئے دعا کرنا بھی نہایت ضروری ہے۔ ان کے رشتہ دار اور عزیزوں سے اچھا برتاؤ کرو۔ سا س اور شوہر سے نیک اور نرمی کا سلوک کرو۔ بعض اوقات دین میں تبدیلی کی وجہ سے ماں باپ کے تعلقات میں کمی آجاتی ہے۔ اکثر نومبائعین یہ سوال کرتے ہیں ۔ ان کو یاد رکھناچاہئے کہ دین میں تبدیلی کے باوجود بہرحال ماں باپ سے نیک سلوک قائم رکھنا ہے۔ ایک مرد خاوند بھی ہے باپ بھی ہے بیٹا بھی ہے۔ ہر لحاظ سے مردوں کو اپنی ذمہ داریاں سمجھنی چاہئیں۔ اللہ تعالیٰ ہر لحاظ سے ہمیں ذمہ داریوں کو سمجھنے کی توفیق عطا فرمائے۔
About Friday Sermon

The Jumu'ah (Friday) prayer is one form of congregational worship in Islam. It takes place every Friday. Regular attendance at the Jumu'ah prayer is enjoined on the believer. According to a Saying of Muhammadsa this congregational prayer is twenty-five times more blessed than worship performed alone. (Bukhari)

Friday Sermons in the Quran

“O ye who believe! When the call is made for Prayer on Friday, hasten to the remembrance of Allah, and leave off all business. That is best for you, if you only knew.” more

Friday Sermons in the Hadith

“… (He who) offers the Prayers and listens quitely when the Imam stands up for sermon, will have his sins forgiven between that Friday and the next”(Bukhari)